I know that after an apocalypse, my husband could go into Prospect Park and kill dinner for us and we’d be fine.Įarly 20s, late in college. The women I’ve been attracted to - except for my girlfriend, who was very feminine - have all been super-hard-core butch. We were hiking and she kept trying to read lesbian erotica to me - those things don’t go together! I’m married to a man now. I did go on one really bad date with a girl. But after we broke up, my next serious relationship was with a man, and I’ve just never fallen in love with another woman. I really thought I’d be with women from then on. I’d announced to my parents that I was gay and everything. I really enjoyed sex with her, so I thought, “I’m a lesbian!” But then … nope. She ended up moving back to college with me and living with me in my off-campus housing. Over the summer, I went to work at a New Age conference center and I met this woman there and totally fell head over heels in love with her. My college boyfriend had moved away and I was really missing him. Some names and identifying information have been changed. Here are 15 men and women whose college experiences took them away from heterosexuality and (sometimes) back again. And part of what you learn is that you can’t always predict whom you’ll want to sleep with. College is a chance to learn about yourself. The LUG - Lesbian Until Graduation - is a long-standing cliché, but no one’s story is as simple as that. If the shiny new fact isn't something you can live with, BLOW, then he isn't either.Throughout this week, the Cut explores college life, from politics and identity to parties, sex, and style.Ī straight woman I know was asked by her boyfriend if she’d ever made out with a girl. If the shiny new fact is something you could’ve lived with or, hell, enjoyed-some women love watching their bi boyfriends get with other dudes-then the offense was unnecessary: he didn’t need to sneak around. Discuss the offense first, the new fact second. You need to separate the age-old offense (sneaking around potential betrayal) from the shiny new fact you’ve learned (your boyfriend may be bi at the very least he’s bi-curious and/or heteroflexible). Let's say he came to you and said, “I fantasized about messing around with a guy-I just want to get my cock sucked-and I wanted to know if that was something you would allow me to do?” What would you have said to him? How would you have reacted Could you be with a bisexual guy? But you need to into that convo with some clarity about what you want-besides him living up to the monogamous commitment he made you-and some clarity about how you feel about being with him if he's bi or bicurious or heteroflexible. then pretty much everyone in a longterm relationship is guilty of first degree murder.Īll that said, BLOW, you’re going to have to have a conversation with your boyfriend. But if contemplating something makes us guilty of it. That said, BLOW, most people who join hookup sites intend to hookup and the rest have at least contemplated hooking up. Some people just want the virtual strokes and ego boost that comes with being wanted by someone who doesn't have "wants me" in their job description.
Not everyone who joins a hookup site intends to do any hooking up. That doesn’t make cheating on you okay cheating is not okay-if, again, he cheated on you. It’s also possible that he wants something in addition to all the wonderful sex he’s having with you-it's possible that what he wants isn't just a blowjob, but a blowjob from a man. It’s possible you do have a wonderful sex life. (I'm stressing those "ifs" because some people join hookup sites to fantasize, not actualize.)
If he went through with this- if you two have a monogamous commitment (I'm assuming you do) and if he got his cock sucked by some dude (and the jury is still out on that)-then you were definitely betrayed. Before I go any further: I want to affirm your feelings.